March 2022 - evening: After lunch and shopping, Franziska went home, dressed up, freshened up her makeup, put on some different jewelry, and changed handbags, before heading out to the Frankfurt opera house for Giuseppe Verdi’s “Rigoletto.” That was actually a very nice performance and the atmosphere at the opera is always very festive and people dress up (to a certain extent), which is also one of the reasons for Franziska to go there.
Portrait of the evening.
Outfit of the evening: a slightly glittery, fairly short, black velvet dress with long sleeves. I love it.
Afterwards, I visited my favorite wine bar, favorite to both my male and female alter egos (please revisit my posting from 24.12.2022). The wine bar is quite small, it is very popular with women (at any given time easily 60-70% of the guests are women), and it has a large round wooden table in the center of the room, which is often used by different parties at the same time. Across from me at that very table were two ladies of my age. They asked where I had been that evening – obviously because of the way I was dressed – and tried to start a conversation with me. Now, conversation is a difficult topic (no pun intended), because then it becomes obvious quite quickly that I am not what I am trying to portray. For that reason, I did not take up their offer, beyond some friendly answers to their questions, which earned me a huffy comment “Schade, dass Sie sich nicht mit uns unterhalten wollten” (A pity that you did not want to converse with us) when they left half an hour later. Little did they know why.
You look fabulous in that dress, and what great legs! It sounds like a good evening. I must join you at the opera in Frankfurt one day.
ReplyDeleteBeing brought up in the more reserved culture of England, it is considered rude for people to want you to enter conversation with them, although I appreciate German culture is different. I get the impression from my regular trips to Germany that Germans are more accepting of diversity, certainly in the big cities, so I would be surprised to hear that someone was unhappy that there was a trans person in the bar.
When I am out as Sue, I find that being very friendly and smiling all the time usually overcomes any suspicion or prejudice by other people, so if they want to talk, I talk to them. They will soon realise I am a trans woman because of my imperfect female voice and looks, but being as friendly as possible usually ends with them liking the conversation. I find this is a good way of being an ambassador for the trans community. I hope they go home thinking that if one trans person was nice, then probably all trans people are nice.
I look forward to reading more of your adventures.
Sue x
Dear Sue, Thank you very much for your compliment and your thoughts. This is the kind of exchange that I was hoping to find in response to my postings. I very much value your thoughts on more openly admitting or transmitting (haha) that am trans when being out as Franziska. I have talked to a number of people in the past - more than just ordering food and drinks - (and am sure they noticed) and would have probably done that here as well, if I would have been sitting closer to them and not across the table. There is one recent and very funny incident that I will report about in due time, where the taxi driver became very well aware of my status. Franzi
ReplyDeleteHi Franziska
DeleteToo bad you did not engage the ladies more they probably knew you were trans and were wanting to chat. Women have an amazing curiosity and sense for detecting us regardless of what we think. As you know from my website I am out and about a lot especially in Las Vegas. I have always used my male voice and have no issues with anyone for several reasons. 1st I am being honest right up front with who I am. 2nd its 2023 and they just don't care.
I will be posting my latest adventure tom morrow.
Micki
Dear Micki, Thanks for visiting and for your comment. I`ll keep that in mind. Being more engaging and communicative is one of the things I am trying to challenge myself with. I recently spent almost half an hour at a small boutique with two very nice shop attendants that kept bringing items to me to try on. And I loved the attention. Franzi
ReplyDeleteSchönes Erlebnis in der Oper - das hatte ich noch nie. Und schickes Outfit. Ich hätte mir die Gelegenheit allerdings nicht entgehen lassen mit den Damen zu plaudern. Wahrscheinlich waren sie wirklich neugierig - und haben wohl erkannt, wer hinter der- sehr guten - Maskerade steckt. Schlimmsten Fall könntest Du immer abbrechen ......Aber wenn die Damen nur ein wenig aufgeschlossen waren, hättet ihr sicher einen tollen Talk gehabt.
ReplyDeleteAlles Liebe Violetta
Liebe Violetta, vielen lieben Dank für Deinen erneuten Besuch hier und für das Kompliment. Und vielen Dank auch für Deine Ermutigung, beim nächsten Mal die Konversation anzunehmen oder aktiv zu suchen. Ich werde das beherzigen. Liebe Grüße, Franzi
ReplyDeleteDear Franzi,
ReplyDeleteI love meeting and talking to straight people while out and about. Mostly it is women who will make the effort but occasionally a man will strike up a conversation.
I am happy to say that I have never had a bad experience during these interactions.
We are just another type of person and thankfully becoming more normalised and accepted.
I am not going to push myself on society rather slip amongst it and revel in my presentation.
The sheer joy is worth every experience.
Love your blog,
Jan xx
Dear Jan, Thank you for visiting my blog and for your wonderful comment. Interestingly, it is through my blogging and the responses from my sisters that I am discovering this different view on going out. In the past, I have tried to avoid anything of which I was sure that it would reveal my state and condition. Now, I am trying to move past that blockage. Love, Franzi
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